I have just come across a very interesting blog on Emotional Intelligence, and how it has progressed over the years since Daniel Goleman wrote his book in 1995 “Emotional Intelligence: why it can matter more than IQ”. The blog is a very interesting read and rather than replicate the whole of it here, I’m providing the link:
There’s a great difference ion being emotionally self-aware and able to read emotions in others. Some people I find are good at both, while others are good at one or other. How confident are you in assessing your own and others’ feelings?
To hone your own emotional intelligence I suggest you try looking at these two things in isolation:
First, find a list of feelings (there’s a good list here by Byron Katie). Then start to notice your own emotions, pause a review the list a few times a day to increase your own feelings vocabulary. Once you have done that for a week notice whether you can register and name your emotions more quickly.
Next, focus on other people. How might they be feeling in certain situations? Look at their body language, the subtle facial expressions and listen to their tone of voice to help you draw your conclusions. Remember, this isn’t about how you are feeling. Aim to adapt your responses to how you think the other person is feeling, and if appropriate ask them. Continue to do this for a week and then assess whether you can gauge an emotion from others with greater accuracy than before.